Stay prepared during your home move with these overlooked moving essentials

We can never be too prepared, but we can always be caught not ready. Excellent suggestions in this blog post!

TWO MEN AND A TRUCK®

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The process of home moving is one of the more stressful situations in life, and can be full of obstacles along the way as you plan out how you’ll get all of your belongings from one place to the next. Being proactive prior to move day can greatly alleviate this stress, and make the entire process seamless.

Everyone knows when it comes to moving, you need boxes and packing supplies, but what about the overlooked moving essentials? These often consist of things that are entirely necessary, but can become an afterthought as you work to organize your move.

Fortunately, as the “Movers Who Care®”, we have more than 30 years of experience in the moving industry, and know just what you need to have handy in order to make your move a breeze! Follow along with this helpful tip sheet so you have everything you need at your new…

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Mental Clutter II: Knowing When to Quit

 

When we clear the physical clutter from our lives, we literally make way for inspiration and 'good, orderly direction' to enter.Julia Cameron

I did it. Today,  I took a leap of faith and left a job.  I worked at Target and I loved it. It was a great way to help pay the bills while building my organizing business.

The decision to leave was not an easy one. And it is one that I do not take lightly.  Business-building wisdom maintains that you keep a day job while you work your passion as a side gig. Do this until you can transform the side gig to your main gig. Good Orderly Direction Professional Organizing Services is my side gig, and, God-willing, it will soon become my main one. It is my passion.

My main source of income (aside from my husbands) is through babysitting\housecleaning, so Target really was a second job. I had to take the Target job last year when the family I work for added another little bundle of joy and Mom took maternity leave. It was perfect timing–late September through mid-January they wouldn’t need me. Enter seasonal employment at Target. That job worked so well, I decided to stay on.

And it all worked until this Summer. Not only was the youngest crawling around, but his brothers were home. Now I was responsible for all 3 boys plus cleaning the house.  Add to that another 10-20 hours a week at the store.

Exhaustion set in.  Even as the 2 older guys returned to school, I was still tired all the time. Something had to give. My mentor and friend Eileen Koff (of To The Next Level Professional Organizing Services and Eileen Koff Ministries) gently told me, “Follow your passion.”

How could I follow my passion for organizing when bills have to be paid, was my immediate thought.

How could you not, was my answer.

I was staying at the second job because of the money, or so I thought.  It hit me: I continued to work at the store out of fear, not money. Fear of economic insecurity. Fear that God would not provide a way for me to bring income into my family. Fear is the opposite of faith.

And so what started out as a safety net turned into a crutch, and then finally, a wall.  A wall that blocked the path to following my passion. A wall that blocked the way to true success.

As soon as I realized that the job no longer served it’s original purpose, I decided to eliminate it. It became unnecessary. Now, with the job gone, the way to following my passion is cleared. That way is paved with good and orderly direction.

De-cluttering rule #1:

Getting rid of objects and other that no longer work or serve their intended original purpose opens up the space in our hearts for the things that matter.

 

Happy Organizing!

Kim

 

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Shame No More

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How many times have you waited in line at the supermarket and picked up a magazine because it had beautiful pictures of a neatly organized space? If you are like me, you get sucked in nearly every time.

How often did you BUY a magazine because of the promise to organize your space, once and for ever?

Or maybe you aren’t the magazine type, and instead, you scour social sites like pinterest, facebook, and instagram? You dream that one day your space will have a sense of good, orderly direction.

If you’ve done either (or both!) of these things, you might just fall into one of two types of people–those who are MOTIVATED by these pictures or those who are INTIMIDATED by them. Which one are you?

If you are MOTIVATED…

Beautiful pictures, like the one below, don’t scare you. You believe you can achieve that level of visual perfection. You know EXACTLY what space is bugging you the most, and that’s where you want to start. And so you do.

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The first thing you do is make a Target run to buy a couple of bins. Then, you put stuff (toys? shoes?) in them. The bins are topped out and you STILL HAVE MORE STUFF to put in them. So, you make another Target run, and another, and another.

You’ve spent tons of money, did a lot of work, and your space is still in disorder, looking nothing like the picture.

YOU FEEL LIKE A FAILURE.

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If you are INTIMIDATED…

Negative thoughts immediately kick in: You start by telling yourself that your surroundings are sub-par:Not Good enough

 

These negative thoughts about your environment devolve into negative self-talk in a nanosecond:

“I don’t have the talent for organization.”

“I could never get my home to look like that.”

“I’m too much of a messy person.”

I’M NOT GOOD ENOUGH.

Whoa.

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Insides v. Outsides

For both the motivated and the intimidated, self-esteem winds up in a basket. Both types of people end up believing the lie that they (their insides) are not good enough because their surroundings (their outsides) are not picture perfect. Both believe that organizing is a God-given talent and that God did not bless them with that talent.

Some people are natural organizers, internally driven in their need for order & direction. They are the exception to the norm. The rest of us need external instruction, and that is okay. Paul, in his first letter to the Corinthians (1 Corinth. 2:15) addressed this idea when he spoke of some Gentiles who did not need to be instructed in the law of God because they already lived it, instinctively. They, too, were the exception.

It is not an admission of failure to ask for help in learning how to organize. You no longer have to suffer in shame and silence. Let Good Orderly Direction Professional Organizing Services walk side by side with you and teach you the skills needed to become organized now and stay organized for a lifetime.

Call Kim today at 631-482-7070

Mental Clutter

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What happens when long-held ideas about our stuff suddenly meet a challenge not faced before?

This is a crucial question every professional organizer must have in her arsenal. The truth is, there is no single  answer because each client responds differently to challenges.  Some may respond positively: “Gee, I never looked at it that way before!” Others may have a bit more of a struggle: “I know it doesn’t fit, but it was a gift. I can’t get rid of it.”

Change is hard. It’s even harder when we are asked to change something that is dear to us. It might be a gift that we inherited from our parents that might serve someone else better.

Or we might be attached to an idea. Maybe even a very long-held idea. Perhaps even one  shared by many people. Then something happens–an agitator comes along and calls into question what we’ve held most dear.

We can choose how we respond. We can either pause and reflect about our long-held beliefs and thoughts, OR we can build a wall and hunker down in our thinking. The choice is ours. Maintaining our way of thinking without self-examination is obstinacy. Pausing to reflect is discernment. This is the crux of good, orderly direction.

Obstinacy makes us unyielding and rigid. Discernment keeps us fluid and present to  what occupies our mind. When we cling to ideas that no longer work, it becomes mental clutter.  When we are willing throw our thoughts and beliefs under the microscope, truth emerges. We may have to change our mind, or may find out we’d been right all along. It may just be the right thing to hold on to a gift from our mother even though it doesn’t work or fit. Only discernment will tell us the truth.

Recently, the idea of what it means to be patriotic has been under scrutiny. We may have long-held beliefs about patriotism and how best to display it. Like a gift we get from our mother, we can choose to respond in two ways: we can either hunker down and decide to never get rid of it because it is against our beliefs to do so, OR we can pause and consider our options. Perhaps the gift we got can be better used elsewhere.  Maybe it’s best to keep it for ourselves. Sometimes it’s best to express our patriotism by standing up for what we believe in, other times it’s best to kneel. Only a discerning heart can tell.

I’m not sure that I would’ve made the decision to kneel like the NFL players did. I would’ve considered whether or not the message got lost behind the action. I may have taken a different action. But their decision is theirs and I can only assume that it was done with discernment. It is not a wrong action, because it’s never wrong to stand up against injustice. Or kneel.

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The Thief of Joy

FROM CHAOS

Sunday 9:30 AM:

Last night’s dishes are still in the sink.

Kids still in pj’s.

Mountains of clean laundry dot the furniture landscape.

Your spouse shouts from the bedroom, “Where are my glasses?”

Church starts at 10. It’s the “last chance” service of the week. If you don’t make this one, important “God time” is missed. Again.

Somehow, you scramble out the door and walk in just as the opening hymn is sung. Whew!

Your body is present, but your mind is still on the stuff at home.

We’re always late!

Why can’t I get the laundry away?

I wish the dishes could clean themselves.

My children can’t make their own beds. Why?

I’m a terrible parent.

Your joy is stolen even before it has time to blossom. Clutter is the thief of joy and negative self-talk is his chosen weapon. Disorganization is the roadblock on our path to God.

For where your treasure (mind) is, there your heart will be also.”–Matthew 6:21

Two thousand years ago in the desert, people were having trouble with stuff and Jesus knew that. Instead of admonishing us about collecting things, He simply tells us the truth about the effect of having too much material goods. The effects can be devastating.

Let me be clear, God does not punish us for our material wealth. God wants us to be happy. He wants us to experience the goods of the earth. Being rich is not inherently evil.

But…

There’s always a but, isn’t there? Our stuff gets in the way of our relationship to God and to each other. This is what Christ is talking about when He tells us that we will focus on what’s important to us. If we are focusing on stuff (obtaining more, cleaning up, holding on to things that are long past their prime), then our belongings become more important than our relationships. We are spiritually attached to things that are here today and gone tomorrow. Our stuff owns us. We are enslaved.

Whoa.

TO CHRIST

If we are imprisoned by our belongings, there is freedom on the horizon. Just after He tells us where our treasure lies, Christ also gives us hope. He IS our hope.

And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these”–Matthew 6:28-29

THE WAY: GOOD ORDERLY DIRECTION (G.O.D)

How do we go from the chaos of clutter to the freedom of Christ? We begin with a single step in a good orderly direction.

Pray.

Pray first, pray always. Then, take a more tangible step. Pick something small. Say, a drawer. Throw out what is broken or no longer works. With each broken item you throw away, you create more space for God to enter.

Welcome to freedom.

Kim

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My Back Story

IMG_20150516_172814290_HDR (2)  I didn’t always used to be organized. For years, I suffered under the weight of food addiction. In that time, the only thing that mattered was that I put whatever I wanted ahead of what I needed. What I wanted was food. What I needed was discipline and clarity.

I went for the food.

In 2010, at 45 years old and weighing over 240 lbs, I got sick and tired of being sick and tired. I finally wanted the help I so desperately needed.

In the early days of my recovery from food addiction, I re-discovered my desire for organization. I uncovered the skills that I’d forgotten I’d had due to years of compulsive overeating. The skill of learning to have just enough food for my body led me to look at my surroundings and ask “What does “just enough stuff” look like?”

I can tell you what it DIDN’T look like. It didn’t look like the piles of laundry I kept on the bedroom floor. It didn’t look like the mounds of mail I never opened. It also didn’t look like the amount of clothes I had in my closet, of varying sizes.

I got tired of being overwhelmed by my stuff, so I took action. I applied the same principle to my belongings as I did to my food: get rid of the excess.

Today

God has always been a factor in my life, and in 2016, I felt the calling to reach out and extend my hand in help to others who have let clutter into their lives. Thus, So Simple Professional Organizing was born.

Quite honestly, it is a privilege to be able to pass on to others what I have been so generously given. And it is a blessing to walk with people on their journey to a more rewarding and fulfilling life. Thank you for allowing me into yours.

Kim

On-the-Spot Time Management

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We’ve all had them. You know what I’m talking about–the days we have planned just so. Then, an item we didn’t know we needed is nowhere to be found. Or an unexpected call comes in and we have to change our plans.

 

All hell breaks loose, right?

That’s how my day was yesterday. Or rather, that’s how it could have been.  That’s how it would’ve been if I had not already realized that I get easily overwhelmed when my day is too scheduled for my comfort.

THE PROBLEM:

THE UNEXPECTED TIME CRUNCH

My plan yesterday was to go to my local yarn store and knit all day, and then go home to chat on the phone with a local professional organizer. I wanted to pick her brain about starting a new career in the organizing field.

But then I realized I didn’t have a crucial item I needed to knit for the day. As if that weren’t bad enough, I’d forgotten I’d told Dad I would stop by in the afternoon. A brief wave of panic set in.

THE SOLUTION:

ON-THE-SPOT TIME MANAGEMENT

When this happens, I ask myself two crucial questions:

  • What’s important for me today?
  • What can I release?

 

WHAT’S IMPORTANT?

The knitting class was already paid for, so I needed to attend to that. It meant purchasing an item I needed before the 10:30 class time.

My father is 85 and very independent and maintaining a relationship with him is important, so I needed to attend to him.

The phone call to the organizer can be potentially life-changing, so I needed to attend to it.

WHAT CAN GO?

As soon as I figured out what was non-negotiable (the class, my dad, and the phone call) what was unimportant became self-evident–as beneficial as it might be for me to knit beyond the  ninety-minute class time, it was not crucial. It had to go.

HOW TO MOVE FROM THE PROBLEM TOWARD THE SOLUTION

Still, I needed to make an unexpected trip to the store. How can I accomplish this without feeling harried to get to class? I like to use two simple time management strategies–buffering and boundaries.

TIME BUFFERING

Time buffering is nothing more than creating space in the day for the unexpected. It can be as simple as leaving for work 5 minutes earlier than the usual time in case you run into traffic, or as challenging as getting up an hour earlier than you do now. The important thing is that you decide what’s best for you.

For me, being dressed, fed and having the bed made by 8 AM is pretty important, even on my days off. So, when I found out I needed to get to a craft store before class, I was ready. I was able to buy what I needed and still be the first one to show up.

Time buffering has worked amazingly in my life. I’m never late for work, even on days when I have to go through a bottleneck of cars.

I’m not yelling for a red light to hurry up and turn green! Thus my stress level is turned down several notches. Who doesn’t want that?

TIME BOUNDARIES

Setting a time boundary around a task or an event can not only help prioritize your day, but can also keep relationships healthy. Sometimes, we even need to set time boundaries around difficult people. This is another way of creating space, or breathing room, in the day.

Yesterday, I had to set a time boundary around my knitting so that I could visit with my father. I had to set a time boundary on my visit to dad so that I could devote the proper time and attention needed for the phone call to the professional organizer. See how this works? There’s space to get the important things done; space for the unexpected; space to breathe.

Who doesn’t want that?

 

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A Minimalist Snow Day

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We are both home today. We could be doing some online shopping this morning, or watching TV, inundated with advertisements. Instead, we are indulging in our passions. My husband with his needle felting and me with my knitting.

It’s a beautiful day.

What does your snow day look like?

UPDATE:

My completed knitting project for today–a gorgeous purple cowl

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A Life of Esteemable Acts

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It used to be that I would do one of two things to make myself feel better–either I would overeat or I would spend money.

I overate to the tune of being morbidly obese with a BMI of 41 and I overspent in the thousands. With the addiction to compulsive eating and debt to income ratio on the rise, I hid perfectly well in society. I was fat and so were you.  My debt matched yours.

With the higher weight and the higher debt came the greater shame and embarrassment. I crawled into a meeting for people addicted to compulsive overeating. I put down the food.

Five and a half years later, I still weigh and measure my food and instead of being morbidly obese with a BMI of 41, I am at a healthy weight with a BMI of 21.

No longer is there shame attached to my eating.

Today, I pay my bills. No longer do I throw them away in the hopes that the creditor will forget all about it. Yes, I really used to believe that. It makes perfect sense in a world where burying your head in sand seems like a good idea.

My husband, in all of his wonderfulness, does not know this part of me. He finds it hard to believe that I used to be that way, despite the evidence of what I’ve shown him (pictures, defaulted student loan notices, etc.) He knows me as the woman who keeps a clean and organized home, sticks to a regimented food plan, goes to meetings a few times a week, and pays the bills on time (mostly).

What happened? How did I go from being a slothful glutton to an organized and detail-oriented person?

A few years ago, a special woman entered my life. We talk everyday, I tell her what I’m eating for the day, and we talk about life in general.  She is a decade younger than me, but we have similar backgrounds. Our mothers are Irish, fathers Italian. We’re both bad at being Catholic, but love the Church warts and all. Our mothers were alcoholic. And we both have the disease of compulsive overeating.

One day, she said to me, “All the positive talk about ourselves and taking our inner child out to play is all bullshit. Want to know how to build good self-esteem? Do esteemable acts. Get your ass up out of bed every morning. Don’t overeat. Be honest.”

It’s really that simple. Today, my list of esteemable acts has expanded to include other areas.

Be available to those who truly want (not need) my help.

Shut up when they don’t.

Pay my bills on time.

Spend within my means.

Save for my retirement.

Save for a house.

Show up for work on time and ready to do the job.

Tell my husband I love him.

Write.

 

Do you want better self-esteem? Do an esteemable act.