Mental Clutter II: Knowing When to Quit

 

When we clear the physical clutter from our lives, we literally make way for inspiration and 'good, orderly direction' to enter.Julia Cameron

I did it. Today,  I took a leap of faith and left a job.  I worked at Target and I loved it. It was a great way to help pay the bills while building my organizing business.

The decision to leave was not an easy one. And it is one that I do not take lightly.  Business-building wisdom maintains that you keep a day job while you work your passion as a side gig. Do this until you can transform the side gig to your main gig. Good Orderly Direction Professional Organizing Services is my side gig, and, God-willing, it will soon become my main one. It is my passion.

My main source of income (aside from my husbands) is through babysitting\housecleaning, so Target really was a second job. I had to take the Target job last year when the family I work for added another little bundle of joy and Mom took maternity leave. It was perfect timing–late September through mid-January they wouldn’t need me. Enter seasonal employment at Target. That job worked so well, I decided to stay on.

And it all worked until this Summer. Not only was the youngest crawling around, but his brothers were home. Now I was responsible for all 3 boys plus cleaning the house.  Add to that another 10-20 hours a week at the store.

Exhaustion set in.  Even as the 2 older guys returned to school, I was still tired all the time. Something had to give. My mentor and friend Eileen Koff (of To The Next Level Professional Organizing Services and Eileen Koff Ministries) gently told me, “Follow your passion.”

How could I follow my passion for organizing when bills have to be paid, was my immediate thought.

How could you not, was my answer.

I was staying at the second job because of the money, or so I thought.  It hit me: I continued to work at the store out of fear, not money. Fear of economic insecurity. Fear that God would not provide a way for me to bring income into my family. Fear is the opposite of faith.

And so what started out as a safety net turned into a crutch, and then finally, a wall.  A wall that blocked the path to following my passion. A wall that blocked the way to true success.

As soon as I realized that the job no longer served it’s original purpose, I decided to eliminate it. It became unnecessary. Now, with the job gone, the way to following my passion is cleared. That way is paved with good and orderly direction.

De-cluttering rule #1:

Getting rid of objects and other that no longer work or serve their intended original purpose opens up the space in our hearts for the things that matter.

 

Happy Organizing!

Kim

 

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Shame No More

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How many times have you waited in line at the supermarket and picked up a magazine because it had beautiful pictures of a neatly organized space? If you are like me, you get sucked in nearly every time.

How often did you BUY a magazine because of the promise to organize your space, once and for ever?

Or maybe you aren’t the magazine type, and instead, you scour social sites like pinterest, facebook, and instagram? You dream that one day your space will have a sense of good, orderly direction.

If you’ve done either (or both!) of these things, you might just fall into one of two types of people–those who are MOTIVATED by these pictures or those who are INTIMIDATED by them. Which one are you?

If you are MOTIVATED…

Beautiful pictures, like the one below, don’t scare you. You believe you can achieve that level of visual perfection. You know EXACTLY what space is bugging you the most, and that’s where you want to start. And so you do.

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The first thing you do is make a Target run to buy a couple of bins. Then, you put stuff (toys? shoes?) in them. The bins are topped out and you STILL HAVE MORE STUFF to put in them. So, you make another Target run, and another, and another.

You’ve spent tons of money, did a lot of work, and your space is still in disorder, looking nothing like the picture.

YOU FEEL LIKE A FAILURE.

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If you are INTIMIDATED…

Negative thoughts immediately kick in: You start by telling yourself that your surroundings are sub-par:Not Good enough

 

These negative thoughts about your environment devolve into negative self-talk in a nanosecond:

“I don’t have the talent for organization.”

“I could never get my home to look like that.”

“I’m too much of a messy person.”

I’M NOT GOOD ENOUGH.

Whoa.

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Insides v. Outsides

For both the motivated and the intimidated, self-esteem winds up in a basket. Both types of people end up believing the lie that they (their insides) are not good enough because their surroundings (their outsides) are not picture perfect. Both believe that organizing is a God-given talent and that God did not bless them with that talent.

Some people are natural organizers, internally driven in their need for order & direction. They are the exception to the norm. The rest of us need external instruction, and that is okay. Paul, in his first letter to the Corinthians (1 Corinth. 2:15) addressed this idea when he spoke of some Gentiles who did not need to be instructed in the law of God because they already lived it, instinctively. They, too, were the exception.

It is not an admission of failure to ask for help in learning how to organize. You no longer have to suffer in shame and silence. Let Good Orderly Direction Professional Organizing Services walk side by side with you and teach you the skills needed to become organized now and stay organized for a lifetime.

Call Kim today at 631-482-7070

The Thief of Joy

FROM CHAOS

Sunday 9:30 AM:

Last night’s dishes are still in the sink.

Kids still in pj’s.

Mountains of clean laundry dot the furniture landscape.

Your spouse shouts from the bedroom, “Where are my glasses?”

Church starts at 10. It’s the “last chance” service of the week. If you don’t make this one, important “God time” is missed. Again.

Somehow, you scramble out the door and walk in just as the opening hymn is sung. Whew!

Your body is present, but your mind is still on the stuff at home.

We’re always late!

Why can’t I get the laundry away?

I wish the dishes could clean themselves.

My children can’t make their own beds. Why?

I’m a terrible parent.

Your joy is stolen even before it has time to blossom. Clutter is the thief of joy and negative self-talk is his chosen weapon. Disorganization is the roadblock on our path to God.

For where your treasure (mind) is, there your heart will be also.”–Matthew 6:21

Two thousand years ago in the desert, people were having trouble with stuff and Jesus knew that. Instead of admonishing us about collecting things, He simply tells us the truth about the effect of having too much material goods. The effects can be devastating.

Let me be clear, God does not punish us for our material wealth. God wants us to be happy. He wants us to experience the goods of the earth. Being rich is not inherently evil.

But…

There’s always a but, isn’t there? Our stuff gets in the way of our relationship to God and to each other. This is what Christ is talking about when He tells us that we will focus on what’s important to us. If we are focusing on stuff (obtaining more, cleaning up, holding on to things that are long past their prime), then our belongings become more important than our relationships. We are spiritually attached to things that are here today and gone tomorrow. Our stuff owns us. We are enslaved.

Whoa.

TO CHRIST

If we are imprisoned by our belongings, there is freedom on the horizon. Just after He tells us where our treasure lies, Christ also gives us hope. He IS our hope.

And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labor or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendor was dressed like one of these”–Matthew 6:28-29

THE WAY: GOOD ORDERLY DIRECTION (G.O.D)

How do we go from the chaos of clutter to the freedom of Christ? We begin with a single step in a good orderly direction.

Pray.

Pray first, pray always. Then, take a more tangible step. Pick something small. Say, a drawer. Throw out what is broken or no longer works. With each broken item you throw away, you create more space for God to enter.

Welcome to freedom.

Kim

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